90% of the managers have problems on their new role because they are not equipped to lead their new team (1). They don’t talk about it because they fear judgement. What’s happening to you is completely normal.
To avoid those problems you have to develop your leadership skills: Communication, stress management, motivation, clear goals, resources allocation, talent management, conflict resolution, resilience, etc
Nobody learns how to play tennis by looking at how Rafa Nadal does it, or reading a book about it. You need to play and you need a trainer who observes you, corrects what you do, and gives you new ideas and strategies to elevate your game.
Leaders have real problems, most of the time they are alone and need to find solutions to everything that comes their way, like a tennis player prepares for his best shot.
- How are you defining your goals?
- Do you think you are communicating effectively?
- Do you have your stress under control?
- Are you feeling alone?
-Do you feel satisfied in the different areas of your life?
Be proactive. You define what kind of leader you want to be.